Saturday, May 1, 2010
Anastasia Update
We received an update from our Bethany caseworker explaining that a change in Ukrainian law made it possible for this other family to begin adopting Anastasia. We were assured that the orphanage director did all she could to prevent this.
We're heartbroken. We're going to try one last appeal to the family, via letters to both the family and the judge presiding over the case. If that doesn't work (unlikely), it will be over.
Please pray for us.
Ted and Kristin
Anastasia Update
Friends and Family,
We received an update from our Bethany caseworker this morning, explaining that a law had changed in ukraine making it possible for "out of region" (ie, couples not from Kiev) to pursue a domestic adoption before Anastasia was eligible for the International Database in September (when we would have adopted her). We were assured that the orphanage director did everything she could to dissuade this family from adopting her, knowing that we intended to come for her. The director had successfully dissuaded at least ten other families from doing the same thing. This family persisted.
We're heartbroken. At some point soon we'll contact everyone who has been praying for us and supporting us through this...and tell them that it's officially over. Before that, though, we're going to send a letter and a family picture via email to our Bethany contacts, and perhaps the judge, to deliver to this family, asking them to reconsider. We're sure this won't work, but we want to try.
We'll follow up next week to ask the obvious logistical questions of what happens to all of the money we've spent thus far. We're done with this process (adopting)...so we won't be putting it toward a future adoption. I don't think we can go through all of this again.
Thanks,
Ted and Kristin
Friday, April 30, 2010
Not the news we were waiting for...
From the very beginning of this process to adopt Anastasia, we have been very cautious with our emotions. We've tried really hard to say "if" instead of "when" while still faithfully planning for her and doing what needed to be done to make it happen. I think it was about March 26 though, when we hosted KluckStock and were so blown away by the support of our friends and family, and recieved such a significant portion of our financial needs, that we started to let our guard down. For one thing, the things to be done for the adoption were beginning to ratchet up -- I've been spending about half of my week on fundraising and adoption-related tasks. One of the big emotional barriers we had put up was that there were going to be no physical, tangible evidences of a girl coming to live here. Several people have offered me girl clothes (one of the things I've most anticipated) and I've always said -- not yet. But yesterday morning, I was down in the basement sorting through stuff for the garage sale, including some stuff my sister had given me that my nieces had outgrown. And there were a few little dresses that came out of the garage sale pile, that I took upstairs and showed Ted, and said this we'll save for our daughter! I joyfully hung those dresses in the closet of our extra bedroom, to wait for her. The guards are down, we're all in.
It wasn't more than an hour later that my social worker called, with the very bad news. A Ukrainian family has seen Anastasia (this was not legal) and has visited her (also not legal) and has filed for adoption of her (not. legal. according to what we had been PROMISED by our agency.) The director of the orphanage where she lives told this family that she is spoken for, but they did not care, and have gone forward with trying to adopt her. Now, if it's not legal, you might ask, how can they do it? This is Ukraine, where money and influence talk (and they clearly have both, or they wouldn't have gotten this far), not America, where people who take bribes get in trouble. We should have known this could happen, but we were too busy trusting our agency, believing in a flimsy "legal document" that we signed a year ago, and waiting to make our move (at our agency's instruction.) Our agency's initial response was, we're sorry, there's nothing we can do.
The distressing thing in all of this is that we have absolutely no recourse, except through our agency. And while they are sympathetic, and willing to "ask questions," time is passing, and this other family is DOING something -- they are adopting our child! And we are waiting, waiting, waiting, totally unsure of what will happen. If we do nothing, for sure she is gone. If we move heaven and earth (not even sure how we would do that) she might be gone anyway. Unless God intervenes, it looks very very bleak.
So would you join us in praying for justice? That our agency would ACT on our behalf (we have already paid them a lot of money to be our advocates.) That we would hear back from Dr. D, the head of the agency on the Ukraine side (who is mysteriously "hard to reach" right now) who is the only one who can do anything. That we would be able to trust God in all of this, and carry on with our lives while we wait. That somehow, in this, we will be able to praise Him and see His Name honored.
And then practically -- about this horrible sale. I'm going to go forward with it, mainly because it's already in motion. If the bottom falls out, and we can't complete this adoption (I refuse to accept this yet -- I am prepared to fight this with everything in me) then I guess we'll talk about what happens to the money we raised at that time. It kinda takes the wind right out of our sails, and if you no longer want to donate your stuff, I understand. I am just trying, against all reason, to maintain a little hope as long as there is a chance.
Sunday, April 25, 2010
It was one of those weeks where I felt just absolutely wrung out, and run down. Busy every single minute it felt like, yet I'm a bit hard pressed to say exactly what it was I was so busy with. I did wrap up the latest session of Christianity Explored, so that was certainly a part of the week. For those of you who don't know what Christianity Explored is -- it's this really awesome event our church does (it was actually started by a church in London) where people who are curious about Christianity can come and eat a meal and discuss it in a non-threatening environment (they don't have to sing or pray or be able to find obscure verses in Habbakuk.) My role in this production has been to cook the meal each week -- and I've absolutely loved it! I was given free reign to plan the meals, get the ingredients, and gather a team of people to help me in the kitchen so we can have a meal for 40-50 people ready at 6:30 on Wednesdays. And I have to admit, I've spent a lot more time thinking about the food and hospitality part of it than about the content of the event, even though the content, not the food, is the part that's a big deal. But anyway, I've done this now for 3 or 4 sessions (10 week sessions) and it has really been a great chance to sort of try my hand at something I've always wanted to do, and it's gone pretty well. It also gave me a great chance to sort of refine some of my recipes, as well as plan out full menus (you know, what goes with what) which is really coming in handy as I work on my cookbook.
And I have been working on my book! It's been great fun -- I never realized I had so much to say about food! Originally, I thought it would just sort of be a collection of recipes, but it's grown to be much more than that, already. Each recipe, as I've entered in into the document, has a memory or association or at the very least some special instructions or ideas. So it's not just the recipe itself, but the story of that recipe. It's kind of become a no-holds-barred trip down memory lane, replete with all my personal opinions and dumb biases. Sort of a window into my soul, if you will. Some of the opinions are ugly -- yes, it's true. I share my deep hatred of such terrible things as loaf bread and cold cereal and don't even get me started on poor quality vanilla extract! -- that's right, I don't hold anything back. They don't call me the saucy broad for nothing!
I've also been working on this Family to Family sale thing. And by "working on" I mean thinking about and stressing out about it. I don't know anything about hosting sales! I don't know how to advertise stuff! I don't know how to get people to donate stuff! I definitely don't know how to organize a huge pile of stuff (hopefully) into a neatly categorized and labeled buying-frenzy-display! But -- I didn't know how to organize an awesome fundraising party, and that worked out, right? And I didn't think I would have enough recipes or opinions about food to write a cookbook, and it's going great! I really didn't think I could rally together the stamina to complete not one, not two, but three international adoptions. So surely I can do a sale too! Right? (this would be an appropriate time to give me a pep talk. yes, I am needy.)
But lest you think there is absolutely nothing new under the sun, allow me to intoduce you to an exciting new product put out by my publisher -- Gut Check Press. (did you catch that, kids? My publisher. That's right, I. Have. A. Publisher!!) This book, called Kinda Christianity is not only going to give you something to do while you wait for my book, it's going to keep you up at night laughing! So get yourself on over to Amazon, and buy the booky!
Saturday, April 17, 2010
May 15
Friday, April 9, 2010
Saucy Broad
Well folks, this is what you've all been waiting for -- the much anticipated reveal of my next fundraising projects!! They won't disappoint...
The first (and to me, most exciting) is that I am going to be the 2nd ever published author at Gut Check Press!! What the hey? Gut Check Press is Ted's newest (and most gutsy!) project yet, his very own publishing empire! He and partner-in-crime Zach Bartels are starting a up small publishing house of their own -- you can check it out at www.gutcheckpress.com it's pretty cool.
So, what does that have to do with me becoming a real live bona-fide author? I'm going to write a cookbook, entitled: Saucy Broad, A Culinary Manifesto of Hope -- and you, dear reader, will have the once-in-a-lifetime opportunity to buy it! Lots of you have told me that I should do a cookbook, or at least a collection of my recipes, and I've never really thought that the effort it would take to do this would be worth it -- I mean, come on, how many of these would I really sell? It's not like I'm famous or anything! And it's not like my recipes are all 100% original material -- almost all of them I got somewhere, and maybe tweaked a little. But then Bethany Erhlich was nudging me to do it, and she suggested I self-publish (which removes the huge hassle of trying to convince a publishing company that I could sell more than 15). And right as she was telling me about this, I remembered that Ted's setting up his own press -- he could publish it!
So we're going to do a print-on-demand thing, which means there is little overhead in set-up costs, and they print them as they are ordered (so if only 15 get ordered, there won't be another 985 sitting in a warehouse somewhere collecting dust.) Bethany also suggested I do this as an adoption fundraiser -- which actually made sense to me on the motivation level. So I've actually started it (shocking, I know) and have a good bit done already! I'm hoping it will be ready to hit the presses by Memorial Day maybe? (Ok, even typing that sort of freaks me out. Wow, that's ambitious). Folks will be able to order it maybe here, or for sure on the Gut Check Press website, and all the proceeds will go towards our adoptions (and since we're self publishing, that will be a lot bigger of a percentage than if there was a Big House publisher foolish enough to take this on.)
SO -- get excited, and start saving your pennies now, kiddos, because it's gonna be saucy -- just like me! All my recipes, all the fun little facts you'd learn from me if we were cooking together in the kitchen, plus some bonus fun essays (about food? cooking? maybe even about me! probably not, that'd be lame) from none other than world-famous author Ted Kluck! It will basically be just like having Ted and I over every single night, only you don't have to feed us, and as soon as you're tired of us you can close the book.
Onto other fundraising news: I am almost 100% sure that I am going to move forward with this mom2mom sale idea. I've begun the process of reserving the venue for the date (I'll reveal that as soon as it's confirmed.) So you can start setting aside all that sweet stuff that you don't need anymore but that other people will be dying to buy. And start thinking of ways to help me advertise this thing, 'cause I don't have a clue. And planning to come weekend of, for some good times whilst we organize, tag, and sell sell sell! Should be fun!
Monday, March 29, 2010
KluckStock 2010!!
Kluckstock was the kickoff of our adoption fundraising efforts – a little party we hosted at our church (URC) to tell people about our plans and needs. It was also, incidentally, super fun! We had a boatload of desserts (all homemade by me, and a group of friends – I figure we logged about 48 man-hours last week baking. But boy, what fun!) karaoke, a sweet silent auction, trivial pursuit, and a kids movie! There were lots of folks there (estimates range from 70 – 200)and it looked like everyone was having a great time – we sure did! It was pretty amazing to look around the room and realize that lots of people who are dear to us (it was mostly people from church, but there were several who came to a strange church just for the purpose of supporting us, which was awesome!) took time out of their busy schedules to come hear us talk, give us money, and have a good time. It was even more amazing to see lots of people we didn’t know who came for the same reasons! I was humbled to see lots of college students there too – students who are a lot more mature and selfless than I was when I was a student!
There were tons of people who helped us pull this whole thing off. Trisha and Amie did lots of work getting the silent auction stuff together – which was a huge hit! And a huge amount of work to do, I’m afraid, but I wouldn’t know because I just left it in their capable hands, showed up, and there it was… beautiful! I had lots and lots of kitchen helpers, baking the yummy delicacies we all enjoyed: Heidi, Danielle, Priscilla, Katherine, Steph, Amie, Booty, Margie, Megan and Jami – thanks so much! I think I has as much fun baking as I did at Kluckstock! A big shout out goes to Sherre (facility manager at URC, and Evan and Cheese who undoubtably had more stuff to clean because of us) and the diaconate for letting us take over the building on Friday. Thanks to the DeLeons who let us use their karaoke equipment, that really made some memories! To the unsung heroes, those who took care of kids so the rest of us could have fun, thanks so much! The singing heroes deserve some props too, for getting up there and putting it all on the line -- most notably Carissa, who endured so much razzing beforehand. Your performance was worth the wait! Then there were those who helped us set up and clean up – most notably our beloved Scottie, who stayed with us to the very end. But maybe that was just because he had nothing else to do. And then, there were lots and lots of donations, both items for the silent auction and those who bought the items and just flat out gave us money – thank you thank you thank you!
So you want to hear the best part? Ok, this is pretty amazing, so get ready. We had a bill sitting on my desk from our agency for the remaining agency fee for $7,100. The fundraiser brought in $7,240. Coincidence? I don’t think so! I am so encouraged and thankful to see this tangible evidence of support from the body and God’s ability to provide.
What's next, you may ask. Financially, we still have a long ways to go. Our next big expense (we won't count paperwork and medical exams as "big") will be to buy our plane tickets, and have $20,000 in cash to take with us whenever it is we leave for Ukraine. And there is the little thing of needing a bigger car when we get home, one that will actually fit 3 boosters/carseats (this means a minivan, folks, read it and weep Ted!) So we will be applying for grants and looking for all sorts of ways to make money in the next few months -- more on that in my next post.
Paperwork wise, we've still got the lion's share to do: medical reports & labs, police reports, income documentation (this one's especially fun), FBI fingerprinting, birth & marriage certs, and the dreaded immigration papers. Sometimes I feel like completing the dossier is like having a full time job -- only it's a job I pay for instead of getting paid for!
A big thank you, everyone who made KluckStock so awesome, and thank you readers for caring about this long and torturous process -- and caring about our family! Stayed tuned, I'll be posting weekly...
